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Writer's pictureLindsay Miller

Marriage Musings

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The other day I attended a bridal shower where the honored guest asked everyone to offer a piece of marriage advice.  It is always interesting to stop and consider marriage from the perspective of someone just diving into it.  With every ounce of newlywed respect, it felt a little like trying to explain how to use, clean and care for one of the brightly wrapped gifts in front of her when her focus was, quite naturally, on the novelty of the item.  I wanted to share wisdom and perspective about the work ahead, offer warnings about pitfalls and acknowledge the potential for deep and lasting joy.  This is the jist of what I said:

With this marriage you are creating something that has never existed before. You each bring unique strengths and vulnerabilities to the relationship and your task is to combine those in a way that allows you to move through your days, weeks and years together.  Life will invite you and this marriage of yours to many places.  Some of those moments will be surprising and may break things that you thought were sure.  Other moments will reveal that ties that seemed weak were actually very strong.  It is important to remember that in all of this you have the ability to choose how you navigate those moments.  The more times you are both able to turn to each other, communicate, draw on your inherent strengths, humbly accept and seek to move through your vulnerabilities the more your relationship can grow.  And the more moments you can string together where all parties are growing and becoming something stronger, the more your marriage will thrive.

Take Action: Think of a relationship you value.  It could be a marriage, partnership or friendship.  Express gratitude to the other person in that relationship today.  It could simply be for the existence of the relationship and how it enhances your life or for something specific like a kindness offered or a strength they possess.

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